Some people call me shy. I don’t totally agree with that comment, although part of my body is incredibly shy.
Just above and behind my pelvic bone is a muscular sac about the size and shape of a pear, you’ve guessed it, my bladder.
Some of you out there may be aware of this phenomenon but I guess it affects men more than women, as although women are happy to visit the restroom in groups, when doing the deed, they are behind closed doors.
For men a urinal can be salvation to a full bladder but also a curse to a shy bladder.
To better explain this syndrome, a google search brought up the below results from the better health channel.
“A person with paruresis finds it difficult or impossible to urinate when other people are around.
Paruresis is believed to be one of the most common types of social phobia.
Treatment includes graduated exposure therapy, which involves deliberately trying to urinate in increasingly more difficult places.”
Well I’ve learnt two things here, it’s common, so I am not alone. And the solution seems quite a bizarre one, to urinate in increasingly more difficult places. So I guess at home (alone) would be an easy pee and in front of a crowd, all eyes on me would be impossible.
If you are interested in the solution go ahead and google it. Below are a couple of my favourite steps:
- Have a ‘pee partner’ to support you. This could be a family member or trusted friend.
I don’t have a lot of friends but none that I could think of to join me every time I urinated. Although, if one day I could ask someone to be that person, I know they’d be a friend for life.
- Try to make as much noise as possible while urinating. Deliberately splash your urine into the toilet water. Do this with your pee partner nearby.
Now I have a legitimate reason for any splashes around the toilet bowl!
- Pick a quiet public rest room (once you are comfortable with urinating at home) and then, with your pee partner standing outside the toilet door, practise the same way you did at home.
I wonder how long it would be before me and my pee partner got reported and arrested for lurking around increasingly busier public toilets. I mean, how would you explain that to the arresting officer.
I think I’ll just stick to avoiding standing next to other’s where pissible.
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